The need to visit the cemetery of a pregnant woman can be both planned and unexpected. We all go to the cemetery on a commemoration day or on the anniversary of the death of loved ones. And when someone dies suddenly, then before the future mother also suddenly there is a need to lead the deceased in the last way. Older women do not advise this, referring to the fact that pregnant women should not contact the "city of the dead." They also say that the future child does not need to see and hear sobs from the mother's eyes, the situation of grief and sorrow. Doctors-gynecologists explain the undesirability of visiting a pregnant cemetery from a medical point of view. In the cemetery, as a rule, the farewell procedure with the deceased or the deceased reaches its apogee: their relatives, relatives begin to cry more violently, sometimes just enter into a state of affect before the grave. It is not desirable for a future mother to see such a spectacle, because her immunity is already weakened by the child's bearing. She, too, can perenervnichat, which will negatively affect the fetus. Sometimes this can lead to even threats of miscarriage. But doctors do not forbid pregnant women to visit the cemetery, they just recommend to focus on their own condition, overall well-being.
As for the atmosphere of the cemetery itself, it is undoubtedly negative. There people leave their pain, sadness. No wonder there is a custom of not getting anything home from the cemetery.
Priests also do not forbid pregnant women to visit cemeteries, because a spiritual connection with the dead can not cause harm. The fact that the baby does not yet have a guardian angel and is defenseless against the forces of darkness is just conjecture.
And every ban has its own alternative. After all, the future mother can say goodbye to the deceased person and home, giving him the last tribute of respect and gratitude. To some women visiting these places on the contrary brings peace and tranquility. There are situations when the future mother wants to visit the grave of her deceased mother, which for many reasons did not wait for grandchildren. The connection between deceased parents and children always exists. Therefore, pregnant women really want to tell the mother that soon she will have a granddaughter or grandson, what name was chosen for the baby. In a word, such communication to the future mother will only be useful. Well, in order to avoid any risks, you need to have a husband or girlfriend with her at that moment.
Unfortunately, in our time, living people are much scarier than dead people. And if we talk about the danger to the pregnant woman, then she threatens her more in places of mass congestion - in the metro, crowded bus, in the market. Therefore, if the future mother does not want to go to the cemetery, then fear of condemnation from other people is not necessary. You can then go to church, put a candle, order a memorial service. And it's worth to go to a wake. So you support the relatives and relatives of the deceased, tell them kind words and honor his memory. Only before that, it will not be superfluous to lubricate the nose with oxolin ointment, because the congestion of people is a threat of infections that are transmitted by airborne droplets. A future mother should avoid this: the flu, ARI is much more dangerous for a child than psychological discomfort.
So, go to the cemetery or refrain from visiting it, it's up to you. And then the determining factor should be not the tradition or fear of condemnation of people, but their own state of health.